I’ve Been Holding Out on You

Oh my GODDESS! Am I glad Friday is here!!

I had the longest day yesterday, 18 hours to be exact!

I flew from Saint Louis, MO to LA and back (in one day!).  This was for the final step in an interview process for a new job, and as I was sitting in the airport waiting for my flight home to board, when I realized it was time for me to share this with you.

I’m single.

I’m a love and dating coach…

Remember how I told you that my love pattern was allowing men to determine my worth and value?

I’ve been holding back from you because I’ve been SO worried about what you would think of me if I told you that.

Would you take me seriously?

Would you unsubscribe?

Would you be like “Why would I listen to her?!”

And then I decided I didn’t care what happened, I had to BE ME! I had to take a risk, if I didn’t, I would always feel like I was holding back on you, and that’s not the kind of relationship I want to build with anyone.

Kinda like dating, if you care about what the other person thinks of you, you’re in this mechanical mental mode.  You’re overthinking what you should do or say, and you can’t be yourself.

Being yourself – is the only YOU, that you want to be to attract in amazing men!!  (or attract amazing clients!😁)

So here’s the TOP THREE things I KNOW FOR SURE (kinda like Oprah there 🙂 ) when it comes to BEING YOU:

1. “Be Yourself, because everyone else is already taken” ~ Oscar Wilde

I know sometimes you think you have to put on a show, or hide things about yourself, just in case you are “too much” (ahem, you KNOW I know how that feels), but the truth is, when you are open and vulnerable and share yourself (within safe boundaries, of course), men can FEEL you. They can get a sense of who you ARE, and when that happens they are drawn to you. They want to ask you out again, they WANT to show up for you.

2. “The moment will arrive when you are comfortable with who you are, and what you are– bald or old or fat or poor, successful or struggling- when you don’t feel the need to apologize for anything or to deny anything. To be comfortable in your own skin is the beginning of strength.”
~ Charles B. Handy

AHHHH being comfortable with YOU! When you OWN who you are and you are in LOVE and acceptance for ALL of you, men notice. They will compliment you on your essence, they will love your integrity and strength, they will flock to you!
Trust me, a woman who is comfortable in her skin, and this goes beyond body image, it speaks to EVERYTHING, Men notice.

When I step into a room, I get noticed, and it doesn’t matter what I am wearing, although I do like to look my best:). I get noticed because I grew into deep love and acceptance with ME, and I know without a doubt I am worthy of everything I desire; love, money, success, health, abundance, there’s an energy about me that men are drawn to.

3. YOU are Your HOME ~ Lena Dolter 🙂

You are your home. You are the one who will always be there for you, no matter what. You are responsible for taking care of and loving YOU before anyone else can. That means you pay attention to what you speak to yourself, what food you are choosing to eat, how much sleep you give yourself to recover, how you choose to move your body so it is a healthy home to live in, all of these things (and more!) are loving acts of self love.

You hear it all the time, “self love is the key to X”
It really is.
I can tell you when I first got on the phone with my love coach 3 years ago, I thought I had self love down, I was like, “yeah, I love myself”.

I had a lot to learn.
And I learned it.
I learned how I was holding myself back from the love I wanted.
I learned how to love ALL of me and really OWN my worth and value.

I learned I how to be vulnerable, so I could attract the right kind of men and have fun dating!

And here’s the thing. You really can’t attract the high quality man you want, when you aren’t the high quality woman you need to be to attract him!
(I speak from experience)

So tell me, how are you doing with being YOU?
Are you terrified to be vulnerable?
Do you wish you had more solid boundaries?
Would you love to know how it feels to own your value?

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