I know what it’s like to be the woman who is dying to be chosen, to have that “Pick me! Pick ME!!” feeling. It never worked. He never picked me. I convinced myself that “dating sucked”, I would never find “the one”, and it always felt bad.
I know how painful it is to feel unworthy of love, to be spinning out of control, and wondering “what do I have to DO to be chosen?”
Living and dating from a place of not feeling good enough, and always trying to please someone else is exhausting, and it never produces the result you want.
My love journey has been learning to how to be AND love ALL of me.
Today I live in a completely different reality, I feel good! I know without a shadow of a doubt my worth and value, and I OWN it.
When I walk into a room, men respond to me differently. I am attracting in high quality men who want to be around me, who tell me I’m gorgeous, and who treat me like a Queen. I no longer need to be chosen, I know I am the chooser!
Before I signed up with Lena, I was chronically single. I swayed between the feeling of needing a boyfriend to having a bitter I’m-better-off-without-a-man attitude. I had no problem getting guys to flirt with me or ask for my number but I would always end up feeling disappointed. The men who I really wanted to call never called and with the men who made an effort, well, I would always use an excuse not to like them: after all, they were too safe. Too available. Too ‘boring’. In addition to working through these emotional blocks, Lena encouraged me to try an online dating site. Initially I felt desperate ‘going out of my way’ to find dates…but waiting for the right man to simply show up was not working for me. Lena also reminded me that this was ‘dating for growth’, which healed another wound of mine–having high expectations for every attractive single man I encountered (ie. ‘Maybe he’s the one! What will our wedding look like?’)
I am pleased to say that I met someone–online! We have been dating for three months now and he’s really taught me to live in the moment and feel ok with being vulnerable. And I don’t think I’ve ever been happier! Not only do I have an amazing boyfriend, but the self love I feel is stronger than ever. Lena has helped me tremendously and I can’t thank her enough